For those of you who have never done so, asking for a letter of reference isn’t a big deal. First, however, you need to decide which of your contacts will be a) the most appropriate and b) the most approachable.
As a general rule, the further they get up the career ladder, the busier they’re likely to be, and to be asked to serve as a reference could well be seen as an imposition on their already overcrowded schedule.
If college is a not too distant memory for you, you should ask one of your professors to serve as a reference for you. If the position for which you’re applying requires an actual letter of recommendation, you’d be better off if you picked a staff member in the humanities who finds the task of writing a pleasant one. (Most engineering, science, mathematics, and technology folks tend to be allergic to the written word anyway!)
Alternatively, if you don’t have someone to whom you can readily turn in academic circles, another good bet is to think of someone in your neighborhood, community or church who knows you well and can attest to the fact that you are a worthy person. (Of course, it would help greatly if she/he had some personal knowledge of you: perhaps you babysat their children, or mowed their lawn or helped them put together a bake sale.
Whatever the context is in which you know them, they should be able to address not only your capabilities, but your personality, morals and ethics as well. To help the process along, you will want to provide them with a copy of your resume—even as limited as it may be—so that they can ask you about some of the things you’ve done and get a better idea of your competencies.
If they can relate an experience they had with you during which they came to know your skills, work style, and values, so much the better. An employer will be looking to ascertain whether you will be a good ‘fit’ in his organization and the only way he has to do that is to rely on people who know you in a variety of capacities.
Although some would argue that letters of reference are now less important than they once were—and there is lots of evidence out there that would support this point of view—any employer who receives your resume with not one, not two but THREE letters of references is bound to be favorably impressed.
(Oh, yes: and make SURE they spell check their work before sending it along!!)